Finding Joy in Marriage Through Prayer

“It’s difficult to find joy in marriage.”

“Marriage is hard work.”

What profound understatements. I remember in the giddiness of our young engagement thinking, “We love each other so much, marriage will be easy for us.”

Boy, were we wrong.

We entered marriage with visions of everlasting adoration. That is, until work schedules, distractions, and ambitions got in the way. We forgot who “we” were, each thinking only of “me.”

Cutting remarks began. Distrust followed and soon we stopped walking in adoration. In fact, I’m not sure how much we even liked each other.

The Separation

Then one day, I asked my husband to leave our home. He obliged.

The pain of marital separation was colossal: a hollow sort of emptiness where despair reverberated. We believed separate lives would bring relief. Instead, it brought a measure of hopeless anguish neither of us expected.

Finding Joy in Marriage Through Prayer

Alone in separate beds and in separate homes, unbeknownst to the other, we individually turned to prayer. My husband admittedly hadn’t prayed in years and my novice efforts felt awkward and uncomfortable. But in the desolate silence, we each cried out to the Lord, seeking help. We began interceding for our marriage, own hearts and reluctantly for one another.

That’s where the healing started. At first, the healing was nearly unnoticeable. There was no immediate reconciliation; no lightning bolt of realization or admission of wrongs. There was something greater. Deep inside each of us, there was the beginning of hope. Read more here…


Today I’m excited to share a guest post with blogger, Tiffany Montgomery on her blog Hope and Joy in Christ. To read the full post and follow her great series, 31 Ways to Reclaim Joy in a Christian Marriage, please be sure to visit her blog.

Tiffany is also providing a giveaway for my new prayer devotional and dozens of other products as well. You won’t want to miss out!

Visit the Hope and Joy in Christ blog here!

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  1. tiffany

    Love this testimony! God is so faithful and heals so many things when we submit them to Him in Prayer

    • Cathy McIntosh

      Thanks, Tiffany! He blesses us with Kingdom generosity! My marriage is one of my greatest earthly gifts and HE restored it to abundant health! Ahhhh. So grateful.


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